The general rule is "!" before objects and "." before properties and methods.
So -
Me!txtBoxName 'Control Name
Me!FieldName ' Refers to underlying field
Me!txtBoxName.Enabled ' Property of control
Me.Requery ' Method
That said, in VBA you CAN use . when you are referring to controls, and intellisense facilitates this with autocompletion...
Me.txtboxName ' also acceptable in referring to controls
A couple additional notes...
If you want to refer to the field behind a control not the control itself, you must use !
Also, when referring to controls in a query, you must use ! and you must use the form name rather than "me" (me and "." only work for control references in VBA, not SQL)
Miriam Bizup Access MVP